Guest Blogger … Carmen Hudson, founder and President of Tweetajob

Let me just put this out there.  I am fairly suspicious of new age stuff.   I read horoscopes through the lens of “yeah, but that could apply to anybody.”  Why, I ask, do crystals have healing powers and ordinary garden rocks do not?  And life coaching?  Hogwash.  Isn’t life coaching just an MLM scam promoted by Deepak Chopra?

I’m suspicious, but not entirely dismissive.  I still read my horoscope, and I’m hopeful that the rocks I smuggled from Bali bring good energy into my home.  So it was with trepidation, and a fair amount of curiosity that I set an appointment to talk to Dory Willer, an award-winning (and certified) life/executive/business coach and founder of Beacon Quest Coaching.

Dory describes herself as a “cheerleader for the soul” and, having met her in person a few years ago, I can attest to the cheerleader part.  She exudes positive vibes.  Her eyes dance.  She wants you to do good things.

Our conversation – about an issue that was truly causing me stress – surprised me.  I always think I have the answers about my life.  I am a bad-ass when it comes to introspection.  I think I have a healthy understanding of my strengths and shortcomings.  I don’t need no stinkin’ life coach.    The issue I was grappling with involved communication, and settling differences.  I was handling the problem poorly, and unable to make decisions or move forward.

Dory helped me tip-toe through the issue and possible solutions.  When I told her that this was becoming too much for me – I didn’t like handling stuff like this — she whipped out my “thrive factors” from a few years ago.  Thrive factors are the characteristics I am most likely employ to make things work.  “You already have all of the tools to resolve this.” She said. “Remember?”

If I were Sarah Palin, I’d call this “gotcha coaching”.

My thrive factors happen to be, in no particular order:

• Seeing Possibilities
• Researching Things
• Adding Humor
• Writing Things
• Solving Problems

So there it was.  I was being a big baby.  I needed to unleash the characteristics I already carry around and dispense with this problem efficiently.  Write it down, she told me.  Work from the end state.  Duh. I know this already. I don’t need no stinkin’ life coach.

Yeah, right.

So why was I struggling with questions to which I already knew the answers?  Why did I need Dory to point out what should have been obvious?  I don’t know.  Sometimes we just need someone to clear the steam from the mirror, I suppose.

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